I myself am a kind person, and I don’t wish harm on anyone, I met a good guy on the Internet, a friend seemed to like me, we talked for a long time, he admitted that he loved me, but I also have feelings for him, but he is very rarely online , and I began to forget about him, you still have to live a real life, a friend introduced me to a guy, we talked about two days after he invited me for a walk, we just walked as friends, after the walk he suggested we meet, I agreed, I don’t feel great feelings, but when he wrote the one who corresponded, I didn’t lie, I told everything, he used to tell me that he was looking for a girl who wouldn’t leave for another, I didn’t even expect it from myself, I completely forgot about him, and I want to return everything back, but if I return then I’ll be alone again, so to speak, no one will hug, press to my heart, won’t say kind words, it hurts, I hate myself, I’m a terrible person, I betrayed him, I don’t know what to do, today he said that’s all loves me exactly, and deleted his page, and the thought of Suicide came to me, of course they existed before, but not so strong, today I decided that if he does not restore the page by next Thursday, I will die, I don’t know who to choose, hopelessness, but I’ve already made my decision about death
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Vita, age: 15 / 05/01/2014

Responses:

Dear Vita. What if your grandfather writes to you instead of your boyfriend??? Or a grown married man? Or the guy is real, but real life he has a girlfriend, and on the Internet he is looking for some emotions that, perhaps, he lacks when communicating with her. The last option happens very often, believe me!
Until you have met in person and talked for a long time, you only “love” the image you created in your head. And because of an image that, perhaps, is not at all what it appears to be - to commit suicide???
Pay attention to the other, real guy. Walk, meet, communicate and maybe you will understand that your true happiness lies in him.
Don’t get carried away, Vita, by correspondence. This is a departure into the world of illusions, from which it is difficult to escape. And even harder. when these illusions are shattered into reality. And on the other side of the screen it turns out not to be the one you imagined.
Social networks are good in one case: when you know a guy in real life, but are too shy to approach him. Then VKontakte can come to the rescue. And in all other cases, IMHO, you shouldn’t get acquainted there.
Everything will be fine!

Olga, age: 26 / 05/01/2014

Vita, good afternoon!
The image on the other side of the screen is always the unknown. Agree, before taking such a step as stepping into the unknown (death) because of another unknown (an image on a social network), you need to carefully weigh everything.
So, first: will you get rid of pain? Of course not.
The first argument is that a very small percentage of those who attempt to commit suicide achieve their goal. Agree, living while, say, confined to a wheelchair is not very tempting.
The second argument is that you cannot be sure that death will bring the desired peace of mind, a kind of sleep without sleep. Research convincingly proves one thing: The human consciousness lives with the body, but does NOT die with the body. So, instead of the desired peace, you will get an endless nightmare .Vita, did you have nightmares? Of course, you remember how bad you felt in your sleep and how you wanted to escape from there. But there is nowhere to escape from death!!! So?
Third argument. The person who wrote to you was simply, perhaps, looking for entertainment. Sometimes men of 60 years old write to teenagers with not particularly good goals. So, should you leave your life just because a person completely unknown to you deleted their page? Go to a place where absolutely I don’t know what awaits you? Make an attempt on your life, risking being permanently disabled?
Excuse me, Vita, but this whole idea is clearly not worth it.
May God give you strength and good luck!!!

Moonwalker, age: 32 / 05/01/2014

Dear Vita, you should not succumb to such manipulations - 1) because you did not promise him anything and do not owe him anything (he is not your husband and not the ONLY person in the world who can give you what you want, believe me, I went through all this at your age ) 2) you don’t know what God has prepared for you around the next turn, maybe you’ll meet someone like this in real life loving person, create a strong family and be happy. 3) who is worth your tears??? and life????? You don’t owe ANYTHING to ANYONE, you are a free person, a beloved child of the Lord, if this guy decided to take offense and delete the page - that’s his problem, I’ll tell you as a guy - if a guy does this, then he’s probably out of his mind or wants to use you, otherwise why Is he trying to manipulate you like that?????? Love doesn't suddenly strike once. Love is caring for a person when you are afraid to even offend him or embarrass him, and how did he take care of you by leaving you in this situation???? rather the opposite, so you certainly don’t owe him anything!!! Vitochka, remember that “love does not seek its own,” so if young people talk to you about “love,” take a good look at what can be disguised behind this word, value yourself!

Pa, age: 23 / 05/01/2014

Vita, understand, you didn’t betray anyone! Online correspondence is not a relationship, especially since he is clearly not interested in constant communication and communication in real life. Does he say that he loves him? Somehow it doesn’t stick then...
You thought a lot about him, brought him closer to the ideal, and now you look at the real guy and think: “No, my ideal is better.” Where is he? Why not next to you? why isn't he worried about you?
You're still only 15! Is it worth depriving yourself of everything that could be in your life because of an illusory relationship? After all, you yourself very correctly noted “no one will hug you, press you to your heart, or say kind words.” This is true. He just plays with his and your feelings, and you are ready to give your life. This is despite the fact that even people who have been married for many years can separate. They worry, yes, but they live.
Not to mention the fact that this may indeed not be a nice guy, but a grandfather who decided to play with love in his old age.
True love is not like that, understand. This is not to demand, to play, to reproach, to force into a framework. This is a bright, uplifting feeling. To love means to accept, to want the best for a person. If your pen pal loved you as he says he did, he would be there for you or wish you happiness with someone else. And I certainly wouldn’t want you to die. You won’t solve anything for her, you’ll just stupidly end your life. Happiness to you and true love!

Maria, age: 25 / 05/01/2014

Vita, dear, please don’t play the “I’ll die or I won’t die” game, these are not toys. You are no longer a child, you need to grow up and understand that God gave you life as an extraordinary, sacred gift! Many people, in order to stay alive, do you know what they go to? And mothers whose children are dying of cancer, ask them what values human life? Have you thought about your mother? Will she have to think for the rest of her life that she did something wrong, get up and go to bed every evening in insane melancholy?! And father, everyone else? Because of some guy whom you have neither really seen nor heard of, as they correctly wrote here, who is most likely bald and fat, 60 years old, or maybe it’s even a woman? By the way, my sister created a fake profile on her classmates with a handsome guy, and began writing to her rival from him. And she then fell in love with this non-existent guy. And there were even photos there; my sister pulled them out from the Internet somewhere.
You are no longer a child, you are a girl, and it’s time for you to understand that you can’t joke with such things as “I’ll die or I won’t die.” And we must treat our lives responsibly, cherish this Sacred Gift like the apple of our eyes.
And from the outside it looks like there are a bunch of people standing there who haven’t eaten for 10 days, they just drank and are terribly hungry and would be glad to have even a cracker of bread. And here you stand in front of them, holding a basket with freshly baked bread, with beautifully skillfully cooked fish, and gradually throw it all into the river in front of their eyes, and at the same time say - “I don’t want to!” I didn’t like the color of the bread, it matched the color of my the eye doesn’t fit, and the fish was actually caught in the river, but I want it from the ocean, so I don’t want it!”

The social network Vkontakte has become a real sensation on the territory of the Russian-language Internet. At first it was simply used for communication between people (not necessarily located at a great distance), but then it acquired a lot of other meanings. Why then are people interested in how to permanently delete a page in a contact?

As a rule, they themselves explain their actions by saying that they decided to live without social networks. However, in reality, everything is far from so simple. Firstly, there is nothing inherently wrong with such resources, but “it’s all a matter of doses.” If the social network becomes a real addiction, then a person may decide to give it up. The problem is that There is absolutely no need to delete the page for this.

If someone truly gives up social media, they simply stop using it. Deleting it won’t help anything - the page can be easily returned, and even if it has disappeared forever, you can create a new one without much effort. So why do people want to delete a VK page? To do this, you need to find out what this resource is.

What is VKontakte?

At first, everything was far from rosy. The network needed to be promoted, and for this they even held competitions among promoters. The most active ones received gifts from Apple. However, after about a year the audience grew to three million. From that time on, the long journey of the social network began, which has not stopped to this day.

VKontakte became a place where people uploaded their photos so that their many friends could see them. They posted videos and actively discussed them with everyone. Users wrote notes on the walls, talking about their own lives and thoughts.

The resource gave a lot of scope for creativity. People began to create groups where they published their own drawings or poems, various videos, such as blogs and stream recordings. Many have started making money using the social network, others use it as a means of advertising and promotion. Be that as it may, the capabilities of the site are really wide.

Why do some people want to delete the page?

What is the average page on a social network? First of all, this is the owner’s first and last name (often fictitious), as well as an avatar (very often a simple picture from the Internet). Secondly, this is a variety of personal information that can be displayed in columns like “date of birth”, “ hometown", "worldview" and "about myself".

Finally, there is a wall on the page, originally used for communication, but today more and more for advertising and distribution of anything. In addition, there are sections with video and music, filled in according to the personal taste of the owner.

So, what could be the reason to delete a VKontakte page? As mentioned above, many will say that this is a desire to get rid of addiction, but, as a rule, this is just an excuse.

In fact, 95% of cases of deletion have only one single purpose - attracting attention. And, as a rule, the attention of one specific person. Yes, pages are deleted mainly by young people, while others simply abandon social networks.

However, there remains one more case in which the question of how to permanently delete a page in a contact is quite logical and normal. This is a situation in which a person creates a new account for himself. As a rule, this happens due to hacking of the previous one, or if you want to start everything from scratch, without offending old friends by removing them from the list.

How to permanently delete your VKontakte page?

Before the design change that occurred in mid-2016, it was possible to delete a VK page without instructions, on an intuitive level. To do this, just go to the settings, and there it becomes clear what to click on. Today, problems arise at an earlier stage.

The design change has hidden the settings so that they are now quite difficult to find. The required icon is located at the top, on the right - it shows the name of the page owner and a mini version of the avatar. After clicking on this, a small list will open from which you need to select “Settings”.

How to delete a page:

• After clicking on “Settings”, a new window will open.
• By default, it shows the “General” column – that’s what you need.
• At the very bottom of this column there is the inscription “You can delete your page.”
• Clicking on it will cause a pop-up window to appear. In it, the site will ask you to indicate the reason why the owner decided to delete it.
• After this, all you have to do is click on the “Delete page” button.

Upon completion of these actions, the account will be replaced by an image of a dog’s face on a gray background. Next to it it will be indicated that the page can be restored before the expiration of six months. As a rule, no one waits for the end of this line, but returns the account to normal after about a couple of days, and sometimes in a couple of hours or minutes. At least this applies to those cases where a person “decides to give up social media” by seeking attention.

Deleting an old, no longer needed page

It is worth separately considering the question of how to permanently delete a page in a contact if it is duplicate and therefore no longer needed. Of course you can use the previous instructions and wait six months, but, as a rule, the owner eventually loses all access to his old account.

• Previously, pages were linked to email, not a phone number. It is very easy to forget your password and answer to your security question.
• The inability to access your e-mail makes it impossible to recover your social network password. As a result, the page remains inaccessible.

Fortunately, there is a way to solve this problem. As a rule, it works completely if the old page contains a valid first and last name. If this is not so, then the situation will be different in each specific case.

You can delete the old page permanently as follows:

• Using your new account, you need to submit a support request.
• This is done through the “Help” item, located in the same place as the settings.
• Having opened the list of questions, you can scroll to the very bottom, click on the missing question and submit a request to the support service.
• It will need to describe the situation with deleting the page.

As a rule, for successful completion you will need to send a photo that simultaneously shows the owner’s face, his account and the page of the passport. Other situations are also possible, since this always happens individually.

If the individual is successfully identified, at the request of the owner, his old page will be permanently deleted within a few days. This way, you can fully focus on your new account.

Friends, greetings to everyone! Today I would like to touch on the topic of how to delete a VKontakte page, I know very well that there are a lot of articles and video reviews on deleting pages on the Internet, but I would like to write a little more extensively on this topic, tell you everything about what and why people delete their pages. By the way, I want to note that the first competition on the blog will start soon, which I will write later, so you better subscribe to blog updates and wait for the next articles.

We are all different: someone, when leaving, shouts “Bye”, someone calmly says “Goodbye”, there are also those who do not define their departure at all - they do not say goodbye and quietly close the door. It’s the same on a social network: one contact page deleted with “loud” statuses and “important” statements, while the other is imperceptible and quiet. These two parties have one thing in common: they were all interested in the question of how to get rid of a boring or unnecessary profile.

Delete a page in a contact forever - the “usual” way

Log in to your social network profile. Find the tab " Settings" At the very bottom there will be a note “ You can delete your page" Follow the link provided (here it is) http://vkontakte.ru/settings?act=deactivate), select the reason for deleting the profile, click on the blue button. That's it, you are no longer a user of the VKontakte social network. But this is only indirect. In fact, within seven months, with a slight movement of the mouse, you will be able to restore your profile from oblivion with all the photos, videos, etc.

You can also delete a “lost” page from the Internet – one that you cannot access for some reason (forgotten password, hacked profile). To begin with, you will have to. To do this, follow the link http://vk.com/restore. Don't remember your details? Here you go http://vk.com/restore?act=return_page. The decision to restore your profile will be positive if your data remains on the page. The support service will offer you to send a copy of the documents with a photo, by which they will identify you.

If you don’t remember your password, email, phone number and you still don’t have a passport, contact support using the link http://vk.com/support?act=new– you can only do this from the registered account of a friend or relative.

What happens to the data after contact page deleted

When you press the button " delete page", it is not actually deleted. At any time, you can return your profile to its place - with all uploaded files (photos, videos, music), with all personal information. If you would like your personal data to be permanently deleted from the service, you will need to “ application with a live signature and passport data (with registration and residence address), sent by mail“- and not by e-mail, but by live mail from Ukraine or Russia - this is exactly how VK agents respond to users.

There is a horror story circulating on the Internet that, they say, all the data once uploaded to your profile will forever remain on the Internet. And that someday (even in 10-20 years) some “bad person” will definitely take advantage of the naivety of the once “young user” and put indecent (seemingly deleted) information on public display. Whether this is so, no one knows for sure. All existing “arguments” are not confirmed by facts, and at the same time they are not refuted.

How to delete a page in contact forever - the “difficult” option

After reading the information above, you probably have a question: how to get rid of your profile on a social network once and for all? There is another method, which we called “complex” due to the abundance of points:

1. Erase all personal information.
2. Get rid of all your friends.
3. Delete recordings, photos and videos, music.
4. In your profile settings, block access to your data as much as possible.
5. Change your email (to an existing but not used one).
6. Disable all notifications sent to your mobile phone via the link http://vk.com/deact.php.

But! Even after you get rid of your VKontakte profile using the “complex” option, you can still “uncheck” the box and start filling out your personal account information again.

How to delete a page in a contact forever - the “complaint” method

Many network users who have lost access to their profiles are asking to report them. Let us remind you: 100 complaints to the VKontakte administration are equal to account blocking without the possibility of recovery. But! If you have always been a good boy or a good girl - you haven’t spammed, you haven’t posted sharply negative information on the wall - deleting a page with a forgotten password using the “complaint” method will not be easy. Nobody bans ordinary peaceful profiles. So in this case, only contacting support will help you.

1. Spam in popular groups.
2. Swearing “bad” words on the pages famous people, at least the same Pavel Durov.

That is, behave inappropriately - be rude, troll, sell some nonsense, act like a fool, beg, etc. The more negativity there is on the part of your profile, the more complaints there will be, which means that the likelihood that you will soon be banned will increase.

Your contact page has been deleted: Are you sure about this?

If you decide to part with your profile forever, know:

1. Your entries, comments, likes, messages will remain, even if you are no longer on VKontakte!
2. All these posts and likes will still be signed with your name. That is, your profile will no longer exist, but your thoughts, actions, interests will remain online forever.

How to avoid this? Before deleting your account, try changing your last name and first name to a fake one - one that doesn’t exist in nature, but sounds organic.

Who deleted the contact page and why?

According to official statistics published on the VKontakte blog, you can see that more than 50% of social network members have not deleted and do not want to delete their profile. About 30% have blocked or are planning to block their account without subsequent recovery. About 19% responded that they would delete/delete their page, but would definitely restore it sooner or later. Note that this survey is anonymous, that is, users had no need to “embellish” their own opinions.

And now the most interesting thing: TOP reasons " Why do people get rid of their contact pages?».

In fifth place in popularity: “Performance fright” or “I want to hide.” Some users suddenly realize that their personal data is available not only to friends, but also to enemies. Constant worry about hiding information makes you want to delete the page.

In fourth place: “The FSB is keeping us at gunpoint.” “VKontakte is a spy tool. Users, without knowing it, post all the information about themselves, which makes it easy to identify them later,” - this opinion is very common among 11-13 teenagers who “have something to hide” (sarcasm, if anything).

In third place: “VKontakte is not comme il faut.” “It’s much more fashionable to be on Facebook or Instagram,” some say, clicking on the “ Delete page».

In second place: “Contactomania.” Habituation and dependence cause withdrawal symptoms. A social network user cannot live without “likes” and “comments”. He sits on his profile all the time - at work, at home, on the way home, etc. And someone decides to end this once and forever–they delete the contact page.

In the first place: “I’m tired, then I’ll restore it”, “What will happen if my profile disappears - how many people will remember me?”, “Let everyone know that I feel bad, that I have problems - I delete the page so that later to restore again." All the reasons mentioned are just a way to attract attention to yourself (or your problem). Such people really need communication, but only in reality.

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Today, social networks are an endless source of information: about the past, about the present, about the future. Photos, statuses, tweets, likes and marks on photos. You can remain unnoticed and at the same time closely monitor the lives of the people you are interested in.

VKontakte and its Internet colleagues make a significant contribution to relationships. But sometimes relationships end, but VKontakte and Facebook still continue to work.

So should you keep your ex as friends or not? The verdict, in my opinion, is clear - if this issue bothers you, then of course, No.

For those who doubt why, let's figure out what the consequences might be. From a psychological point of view.

Why might you even need to leave them?

Did you know that about 70% of young men and women surveyed in one study 1 continue to secretly monitor the statuses and likes of their exes? About 70%! It's not even half. And you may never know that you are being watched.

People monitor exes' profiles for various reasons: anxiety, jealousy, envy, depression, anger, melancholy and other negative emotions They force you to open His or Her page again and again.

Many people hope for the restoration of relationships and may, because of this, see a certain hidden meaning, secret message.

Even if the profile is private and its owner (or mistress) does not share anything particularly intimate, a profile photo and a list of friends, for example, can already say a lot. Some social networks allow you to see when a person was last online.

Half of those surveyed in the same study reported that they had tried to find photos of their ex with someone new on social media, or other evidence that they were in a new relationship. At the same time, those who engage in such surveillance of exes are convinced that this is a completely innocent and harmless activity 2.

But in reality, is it really that harmless?

Consequences of surveillance: only negative

Globally, the more time you spend constantly spying on your ex, the less chance you have of quickly recovering from a breakup and starting a normal new relationship 3 . Regardless of whether you left your ex as a friend or not, the very fact of regularly monitoring his statuses, photos and posts is important.

👉 You are more likely to experience jealousy, anger, desire to possess and stress. At some point, you may find out that your ex has actually started a new relationship and seems to be really enjoying it! Then your experiences will become very strong.

👉 You spend less time on your current problems here-and-now that require your attention.

👉 You are less involved in new relationships, which means that the likelihood of success decreases.

👉 You still continue to waste your strength, energy and resources on your ex and on his life. You can imagine it this way: you are still investing your last money in a bank that is about to collapse, and you will not receive any interest, nor will your funds be returned.

👉 Your new partner may notice that you still haven’t dotted all the i’s: you comment, write statuses full of poison, visit your ex’s profile, etc. Do you think this will benefit your new relationship or not?

👉 When you communicate with your ex in person, it’s unpleasant, you feel strong negative emotions, but at least you have feedback, you get at least some information and answers to your questions. By following them on social networks, you have none of this. You speculate and are left alone with your experiences. It is clear that there is nothing useful in the long term in this.

👉 This kind of behavior can easily turn into obsessive. There may come a day when you cross the border of “just innocent surveillance” (although we already see that it is not so innocent), and then it will be difficult for you to free yourself from addiction and anxiety.

The only possible benefit of spying on your ex- this is the likelihood that he or she at some point may publish something that is too stupid or mundane, which will once again confirm for you that the decision to break up was correct. But how long can we wait for this?

What to do next?

So, the conclusion: it doesn’t matter whether you formally remain on your friend lists or not, constant monitoring of the activity of your ex (or former) on social networks is what is important.

This can already negatively affect how quickly you recover and can move forward, and how bad you will feel in the process of adapting to new conditions.

For some of us, the only way to stop following us on social media is to unfriend. So do it right now: unfriend on Facebook, Odnoklassniki, My World, Twitter, Instagram, in a word, everywhere.

• Remove all marks and tags on photos.
• Delete all photos of you together from your phone and laptop (if this idea makes you very anxious, or you are used to storing everything in archives, then move the photos somewhere for storage so that they cannot easily catch your eye).
• Remove songs and playlists that remind you of this person.
• Block or delete your ex from instant messengers, Whatsapp, Viber, etc.
• Delete this person's contact from your address book, delete all his/her emails.
• Tune in to the fact that you will gradually but surely clear yourself of past relationships.

Of course, there is no guarantee that you will immediately feel better, but there is a guarantee that you will have a little more time :) And you will remain free for the sake of your own health and future.

1 Lyndon, A., Bonds-Raacke, J., & Cratty, A. D. (2011). College students’ Facebook stalking of ex-partners. Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, Online First, DOI: 10.1089/cyber.2010.0588.
2 Bowe G. Reading romance: the impact Facebook rituals can have on a romantic relationship. Journal of Comparative Research in Anthropology and Sociology 2010; 1:61–77.
3 Marshal, T. (2012). Facebook surveillance of former romantic partners: Associations with postbreakup recovery and personal growth. Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, 15, 1-6

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I deleted my ex 6 years ago, and I don’t regret it. I didn’t forget her, and I didn’t stop loving her—I just stopped thinking about her. From 90% of all my thoughts only about her gradually became 0.01%. It really didn’t help me find another one. Now I’m not even sure that I need anyone. Got used to loneliness. The proximity is now annoying.

1. Having lived together for 15 years, and hearing that a friend was coming who had nowhere to live, so I needed to move out, in fact the friend turned out to be a friend, after this, only one thing: “Rub the bitches that are sitting on you! ", it’s offensive for someone else, it’s difficult to restore trust in new people, cynicism prevails (...

   Of course, dear girls, excuse me, but I absolutely agree with this article. If you need to draw conclusions, do so, but do them for yourself, without the participation of another person, since you can only be responsible for your condition, which, in fact, is the only and important point in your life. And all this surveillance is masochism, even if you have at least 5 children together, this does not justify surveillance. It is necessary to be in such moments here and now and recover as soon as possible, and only then, when the guns are bombed, carry out an analysis and draw conclusions so as not to encounter this in the future.

   There is only one conclusion - YOU CAN ' T FOLLOW. BANNED UNDER ANY CASE. All the most important things are decided through conversation, where you can hear live speech and get some kind of return.

   How can I explain that I visited the page first when I was sad and bad, and then became much more often? And I understand that it’s not necessary, that’s it, there’s no turning back, but still I’m tempted to come in and see if he suddenly feels as bad as I do

   I agree with the comment Everything is individual. You rely purely on statistics, and what exactly does it reflect? It reflects the state of society, and in it, relationships are less and less often built on feelings, in a deep understanding), now there is more pragmatism, selfishness, pride, self-affirmation and other material things. Divorce statistics confirm this. Society is increasingly moving away from the spiritual, emotional to the material, pragmatic. I don’t presume to condemn or justify - it’s just a fact. And I agree, if there was no love from the beginning, then your recipe has the right to life. But what to do if it was and even more so remains, and what to do if one of the two made mistakes. You propose to break the connection without even understanding the reason for the errors, and that the errors do not need to be corrected. I always tell my children, if you see mistakes, correct them. There is no guilt in mistakes, there is guilt in not correcting them. But now, the young people have separated, you come to the conclusion that there can be no such thing as a relationship. Isn’t it possible, aren’t there cases when people didn’t meet for years, and then built families, having figured out what was happening to them, understanding their true feelings. You suggest - tear it up and not return. Of course, it’s easier this way, why dig into yourself, into him (her), go on and look for someone else. I am now watching my children after breaking up, and not because of the appearance of another person in their lives, but simply because something went wrong. They haven’t deleted each other; moreover, they like, comment, and periodically correspond. At the same time, they try to look towards other potentials, compare, delve into mistakes. So is it bad, no - it’s difficult, sometimes painful, but I’m sure it’s very useful. You are not just proposing to break off relationships, you are deliberately giving people the idea “It’s not my fault, which means forgetting, throwing away and looking for that one”, but what about analysis of why you got together, how you lived, why you separated, what errors. After all, if you don’t understand this, how can you be sure that the next feelings will not tolerate the same thing. And this can be understood through the continuation of relationships, through the virtualization of the latter. For example, she (he) kept saying I love her, and a month later she’s already building a relationship with someone else, so it was love, or how will he (she) understand this if he continues to love her (him) and hope? , only through observing him (her), looking for a refutation or proof of the truth of feelings. Just imagine, young people, due to their inexperience in building a family, made mistakes, dug into them and ran away, making erroneous conclusions about their relationships and feelings. And there are two options for development: yours - break completely and look for new life, and the second (we will consider mine), observing each other’s behavior, analyze the relationship further. alone, or maybe through social networking opportunities and together, suddenly discover that the same feelings exist even now, and the mistakes that happened need to be corrected, by restoring contacts, first virtually, and then in reality. Yes, there is a possibility of a one-sided feeling, one really loved, the other, as it turned out, did not. But here, too, one cannot do without continued relationships on social networks, such a fact must be established - yes I love, oh he (she) no - it is proven, a fact. What to do with this then, first of all, understand myself, why I love and did not see the reciprocal feeling and continued to build a relationship. How to avoid getting into such a situation in the future, how to figure it out, what to pay attention to, etc. questions will appear only after analyzing what happened, but only after establishing the fact that he (she) did not love him. And if you cross out half of yours (yours) from everything, how can you find out whether you scattered correctly? You offer an answer to make life easier, yes it’s easier, but will it be easier later when everything happens again. How true do you think the phrases “All men are goats” or “All women…”, I think such conclusions most often do not explain the reason, but justify the action, this is also easier. But everyone knows that both are to blame for the breakup, which means that without understanding YOUR guilt there will be no future, and you can understand by continuing the virtual line of relationship, as you say, spying on the lives of your exes. Even when there was real betrayal, you still need to understand the reasons for YOUR behavior that led to the betrayal. It’s either you initially see (not see) a reveler, but build a rosy relationship with him, then what do you expect from them, or you create such a situation that the other one is looking for other feelings and relationships with another person. In both cases, it is the fault of the one who was cheated on, shouldn’t this be understood and made sure for the future?
   I’m sure that continuing to scan your ex is good for you, and maybe both. There are examples, believe me.

2. This is good when you haven’t had time to have children. Although it’s also difficult and painful, you can get rid of it from your phone, from all your contacts... But what if your ex communicates with your child? The child is small, communication is only through his mother’s phone, voice and video through the same WhatsApp. You can’t delete it... And when the baby is taken to visit his dad or grandparents, and then the photos are posted on the networks...

3. It's very difficult. Take it and cross it out right away. I’ve been “sick” for a year now, because for 10 years we can say we ate from the same plate. But. Fell in love with someone else. Deceived. Me. Her. Betrayed. Insulted. Of course I'm not an angel either. She also staged a show based on the emotions of the mask. Then I was sick for a long time. I lost 12 kg in a month. VSD attacks began. Taking medications. Neurology. Treatment in a hospital. His drunk calls. Then these are entered into each other’s emergency list. Conflict with his new passion. By the way, she called me herself and let’s make a claim. Laugh at me. Tell me nasty things. She called from his phone. I had to defend myself briefly. Hard. I put both of them in their place. And the hostility began. Cold War on a social network. She posted all sorts of posts on her wall trying to offend me. Sometimes she succeeded. I don’t know why I didn’t cross all this then. She probably wanted to play herself. But recently I stopped reacting altogether. Closed. I was activated based only on the business I run. Only this. No snot. And suddenly I see it. Out of curiosity, I looked at my rival’s page. That somehow she is not as happy as before. That immeasurable love was reflected. But now it doesn't. Absolutely stupid and empty posts. And now I don't care. He chose the position of silence. I, reluctantly with pain in my soul and heart, am trying with all my might to completely forget him. It's still hard. But I must endure. Remembering all the bad moments of his attitude towards me. I mentally wished for her to experience ten times worse from him. And so. I hope in the new year 2017 I will completely get rid of the person who was once close and dearly loved to me. Or rather, from thoughts about him.

4. Interesting article, but I think that everything is individual. For example, I had a fight with my best friend, we didn’t talk for a long time, I was worried and stressed myself out. I even called him several times…..but he didn’t pick up….I waited…and waited…worried and waited…..and then I woke up in the morning and removed him from my friends list, in the evening he came to visit and asked why I deleted him ?))) Now our friendship is even stronger)))

5. That’s right, but it’s very difficult to remove your ex from all contacts, especially if you have something in common with him, for example, a child together. Relationships in the past are a passed stage of life. It cannot be erased from memory (although I really want to). After the divorce, I immediately pulled out the photos ex-husband from the album, deleted everything on the phone that was connected with him, got rid of his things and even his gold wedding ring. But block a person in social networks difficult. Purely out of interest. I deleted and restored several times. But to be honest, it’s easier to forget everything altogether and not bring up the past. But we have to communicate though ex-spouse moved to another country.